Colindale Counselling

Welcome to the counselling website of Wade Miller–Knight, counsellor for Colindale and Kingsbury, North West London NW9 and Hendon (NW4).

How Counselling Can Help You

Counselling may be for you if you're hurting because of your feelings or thoughts. It can make such a difference to talk it over with someone who listens, someone who cares about you and doesn't judge you or tell you what you "should" do — and isn't in your life in any other way. That's where, as a counsellor, I can be of service.

Perhaps you feel the hurt inside, such as stress, depression, fears, anxiety, grief, or low self–esteem. Or there may be something unhappy in your life — relationships, social life, or obsessive habits ('OCD', some call it) for example. Or you feel like you've no sense of purpose, spiritual discontent, or spiritually unsure. Or maybe you feel you're an outsider, you feel excluded, lost, or in some way just don't belong.

Counselling can help you to manage better, and to move from coping to becoming a growthful learner.

Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual

Of course also, I'm fully with you and positively for you if part of who you are is that you're gay, lesbian, or bisexual.

Listen, Respect, Care, Never Betray Secrets

Counselling is a one to one relationship. I am alongside you as a unique individual. My commitment to you when I'm your counsellor is to listen, to care, to respect you, not to judge you, and never to betray you nor the secrets of your past no matter how dark you feel they are or how difficult for you they are to voice.

How Counselling Works

Usually, clients come once a week for a 50 minute session. (We can be flexible about that.) Quite often, a relatively short time in counselling like five to ten sessions is plenty; but there are times when clients remain in counselling for considerably longer.

Person–Centred

The style of counselling I offer is "Person–Centred". I hold this to mean:

giving you, as my client, understanding, respect, acceptance and non–judgment (so not telling you "you should....");
being genuine and real myself in relationship with you; and
not controlling or steering the process of what happens within you or in our work together, not setting your goals for you.

I work as a counsellor with clients of all ages from 16 up, and with all areas of psychological / emotional concerns. I accept each person as unique. So while I understand that people may say they suffer from "depression", "anxiety", "stress", "OCD", "low self–esteem", "abuse" and so on, I work with each individual client for their change, growth, and self–acceptance to help you the client to cultivate and strengthen your psychological and emotional well–being, rather than by labelling a "problem" and then "solving" it.

I am Person–Centred, not rules–centred. I value the essence and spirit of wisdom and love, rather than living life strictly by a rule book. When it's safe, I turn left at No Left Turn signs, or talk on the mobile while driving, and I go out in sandals in January when it's mild. A preposition is a word I CAN end a sentence with. As counsellor, I want for you, my client, to be the best, most joyful, loveliest you who you really are.

A Word on Confidentiality

Normally, everything you bring to counselling (or psychotherapy, as it's sometimes called) is totally confidential. The counselling room is sacred space, a safe place for you to be wholly you.

There are a couple of exceptions. Legally, I have to report money laundering! And ethically, I can't keep it hushed if you're intending to seriously hurt either yourself or someone else. But even then I'd discuss our choices with you first if at all possible. "Within these sacred walls, no betrayer can lurk." (Mozart, The Magic Flute)

Colindale Counselling Fees

£30 per session, fourth session free. Concessions for psychotherapy / counselling students.

Contact Me

By email: wade@colindalecounselling.co.uk

By phone: 079 52 82 0333 (Please leave a message if you get the answerphone.)